Welcome to a Secret Subject Swap. This week 16 brave bloggers picked a secret subject for someone else and were assigned a secret subject to interpret in their own style. Today we are all simultaneously divulging our topics and submitting our posts.
Here are links to all the sites now featuring Secret Subject Swap posts. Sit back, grab a cup, and check them all out. See you there:
Baking In A Tornado
The Momisodes
The Bergham’s Life Chronicles
Stacy Sews and Schools
Dinosaur Superhero Mommy
Spatulas on Parade
Sparkly Poetic Weirdo
Southern Belle Charm
The Angrivated Mom
Confessions of a part time working mom
The Lieber Family Blog
Cluttered Genius
The Diary of an Alzheimer’s Caregiver
Someone Else’s Genius
House of J Chronicles
Climaxed
My subject is:
“Do you believe that people can be forced to do what's good for them?
It was submitted by: Confessions of a part time working mom .
The short and sweet answer is no, you cannot force someone to do what's good for them.
The thing is, that is very subjective. Good for them by whose standards? Mine, yours, theirs? What I think is good for someone maybe the complete opposite of what they think is good for them.
We all have different opinions about everything under the sun.
Now, I obviously don't mean things like drug abuse or drunk driving. Although, in those cases you still can't force someone to not to them. I wish we could. The world would be better off if we could.
That being said, the world would NOT be better off if some of us were able to force our will, and only our will, upon others. It really isn't up to us to decide what may or may not be good for someone else. We haven't walked in their shoes. We don't know what's driving their decisions. We don't know their options.
Oh, people try every single day to make people do what THEY think is good for them. But if you're like me, that gets your back up. When someone tries to force me to do what THEY think is good for me, without any thought to who I actually am, and what I actually stand for, or where I have actually been in my life, they are more likely to meet with resistance or out right rebellion.
I'm not necessarily proud of that. I am usually such a people pleaser but sometimes even I can be contrary. LOL
Most times people think you are asking for advice when what you are really asking for is an ear to listen to you, a heart to feel for you, and arms to hug you.
wow, what a thought provoking prompt and post. I agree with you. If we can be forced to do good, then can the same thing happen with evil?
ReplyDeleteAbsolutely!!!!!!!
DeleteThanks!!!
I think this is what is wrong with the world these days. To many people trying to enforce their wants on every one else. Great job with your subject!
ReplyDeleteOh, most definitely!!
DeletePeople don't listen with the intent to understand, either. They just want to respond and get their point across anyway they can.
I'd much rather try to convince someone with evidence, logic, and love; than just force them to do what I say. Of course my parenting style doesn't always reflect this!
ReplyDeleteVery true.
DeleteParenting is a whole other ball of wax most of the time.
You have my ears and my heart and my (virtual) arms!
ReplyDeleteTHANK YOU!!!!!!
Delete<3 <3 <3 <3
Always the same from me to you!!!!
I totally agree! "Right" is a very relative, subjective term. The only person who can really tell me what "right" is for me is me. Laws and public policy go a long way to curbing "bad" behaviors but they still happen. And, I really don't want to live in a dystopian Minority Report kind of world where a bad thought gets you arrested before the action ever happens
ReplyDeleteSO true!!!!!
DeleteAnd I could see some people wanting it to go that way!!!
Love what you did with my prompt!
ReplyDeleteI came up with it because Colin doesn't want to learn to swim. As his Mom I feel he needs to, as a life skill, but also because as he gets older not only will his friends go to the pool, but it's actually gonna be a part of gym class at some point. How do I get him to want to learn to swim on his own free will? Because you're totally right, the more pressure he senses, the more he'll say no, I hear you!
THANK YOU!!!!!! So glad you like it!!!
DeleteOh, that's a tough one.
I managed to get my Colin in the pool with a life jacket on. He won't go near it any other way. But he has never really liked water. Baths have always been a struggle. :/
GOOD LUCK!!!!!
I used to try and please everyone, did what they thought was "good" for me. Now, well like you said, they have not walked in my shoes. My choice. Try to tell me what is "good" for me and you'll see my back as I leave........
ReplyDeleteGreat job with the prompt
EXACTLY, Minette!!!
DeleteAnd you can never please everyone anyway. ARGH!!!!!
THANK YOU!
Totally agree! I've got four kids and when they dig their heels in, there's no budging them and they have to learn the hard way. Or teach me a lesson in being wrong.
ReplyDeleteOh, yeah. So been there.
DeleteIt hurts sometimes to see them have to learn the hard way but those are usually the lessons that they don't forget.
You can't "MAKE" ppl do things, well you can if you 're controlling and abusive.
ReplyDeleteOh, that is VERY true but I like to think that it always comes back to bite them in the a$$!!!!!
DeleteMy very best friend in the world was one who spoke up about something stupid I was doing. She definitely couldn't force me, and I definitely had to learn the hard way. But I did learn. And she was right there to support me after.
ReplyDeleteWell, that's a different kind of thing altogether.
DeleteUsually when someone thinks they know what's best for you, they really mean what THEY want you to do or what THEY would do in that situation.
Love the question love the answer! Agree wholeheartedly that what one person deems "wrong" may be "right" for someone else.
ReplyDeleteMy arms and ears are always open (figuratively) for you, Stacy.
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