September 26, 2016

The Voice of a Welfare Child

I don't normally write serious posts. I don't usually touch on incendiary topics or anything that might be considered political. But I am now.

Why now? Well, I have been seeing a lot of welfare bashing going across the interwebs.
Like that people on welfare are:
Good for nothings
Living off the hard workers of society

So now it’s OK to bully those in need? Do the people who say these things even have a clue of what it’s like to live in need? To be desperate?

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Here’s the truth as I know it.

Because yes, I've lived it. I was a welfare child.

Let’s start with getting on welfare to start with. You have to meet all kinds of requirements. If you don't have a job, you have to be actively seeking one unless you are disabled or in school full time.

Most people on welfare are single parent families. They have children and/or the elderly. They are the disabled.

They are NOT single, able bodied people.

They can NOT buy anything with food stamps other than food.

They can NOT use food stamps to buy toiletries, diapers, etc.

See, that's the thing about welfare. Most people on it have NO OTHER CHOICE. They are not sitting around in the lap of luxury. They are just barely scraping by. BARELY.

People wonder why there are so many homeless. Well, because it is NOT easy to actually get welfare. And after a certain amount of time with no job you get booted off.

There is no further safety net for people on welfare.

Got robbed? Sorry, can't help you further.

Lost your stamps/money? Sorry, can't help you further.

This is not a secret, there are all kinds of statistics that show these things, but people really don't want to listen for some reason. I don't get it.

When people talk about getting rid of welfare all I can think about is what would have happened to me as a kid? To my family?  What would happen to ALL those kids, the disabled, the elderly that rely on it so much? Those who, at a specific time of their life honestly and truly just need help?  

So, here's what it's like for a child on welfare:

You don’t eat lunch after a certain grade because everyone knows who has free lunch and who doesn’t. It’s hard enough being in middle and high school without adding any extra stigmas to yourself.

You don’t get to participate in extracurricular activities. They cost too much and odds are your family may not have a car. Or they have a car but not enough money for gas.

Going to the library to do research for school was difficult. Mom didn't have a car and there was no public transportation in my small town.

Birthdays and Christmas can be very lean. I was lucky in that I had wonderful grandparents. But even then I can remember one particular birthday where the only thing I received was a pair of flip flops from Family Dollar. I’m not complaining. I know that I had it easier than most kids on welfare.

I was born in 1974 so when I was on welfare they still had the booklet of stamps. EVERYONE in the store knew what they were and what they were for. It was very embarrassing.

I didn’t have a VCR.

I sometimes had very basic cable and sometimes a phone.

I can remember one year, I was given a voucher for school clothes. I was so proud of those clothes! I was so very careful with them.

Too bad there wasn’t also a voucher for school supplies.

This was how I lived my life, this was my reality.

I can remember right before I turned 18 my mom had been robbed and then went right into the hospital. Mom had a mental illness. In fact, she didn’t even realize she was robbed until sometime after the fact.

There was no money, no food stamps and I was getting disconnect notices on the bills.
I remember my friend’s wonderful mom bringing me over a box of food.

I had to make decisions. Tough ones. Could I go to my grandmother and ask for money? I just couldn’t. My grandmother’s health wasn’t great, I was always afraid of upsetting her. 
And I knew I’d have to suffer the humiliation of going to her: my extended family would look even further down on me than they already did.

So I started calling the utility companies. Thankfully they all gave extensions and I let my mom deal with it all when she got out of the hospital.

I was so stressed and so scared.

What were you doing when you were about to turn 18?

Are there people who abuse the system? Yes, there are. But the vast majority do not. The actual amount of welfare fraud is extremely low because of all the documentation you are forced to present and hoops that you have to jump through. Not just to get on, but on a regular basis in order to stay on.

But you know what? Even if the statistics on fraud were higher, I would still be all for it.


I would MUCH rather my tax dollars go to feeding people than a bridge to nowhere, another war, another vacation for the fat cats who are trying to get rid of welfare.

And because I believe in children. I believe that when a family is in need you do not kick them when they’re down. You help them back up. 

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October 12, 2015

Blog with Friends - Scary Stuff Edition

Today is Blog with Friends - SCARY STUFF Edition!!! Ready to be afraid???? 

For my project I'll show you how to make a Have Scary Dreams Pillowcase!

I saw this fabric in Joann's and knew it would be perfect for Jacob. Nightmare Before Christmas is his favorite movie and purple is his favorite color. His birthday was September 21st and I knew I wanted to make SOMETHING for him. But what??? (BTW, I actually made this over a month ago!) 
I decided that a pillowcase would be the best thing for a 22 year old boy. ;) 


Just less than 1 yard of main

Just less than 1/4 yard of black


You can use an existing pillowcase to measure this out if you like. 

I cut it the length I wanted and left the width.

Fold the contrast fabric in half and press.

Pin it to the "bottom" of the pillowcase. (I changed the position from what is shown in the picture.)

Sew the seam.

Press the seam.

Top stitch in place. 


Pin along the side and the bottom.

Sew the seam and press!

Guess what! You're done! That took, what?? 10 minutes????

I then took the pillowcase and embroidered Jacob's name on the black with shiny purple thread. 

Y'know.... Karen from Baking in a Tornado just reminded me how kids can trick or treat with pillowcases!!!! Wouldn't that be perfect?? You could make one to match their costumes and when Halloween is over they can use it on their beds!!! :D

Now check out all the other SCARY posts!!!!! :D

 Karen of Baking In A Tornado shares a recipe for Billy the Puppet Cake.

Blog With Friends: a monthly post of recipes and DIY and more by multiple bloggers based on a theme. October's theme: Scary Stuff | Billy the Puppet Cake by

Robin of Someone Else's Genius wrote a Halloween story, In the End: Re-Imagined.

Rabia of The Lieber Family Blog shows us how to make fun Trick or Treat Bags.

Check out Lydia of A Cluttered Genius's Cheap and Easy Halloween Make-Up Tutorial.

September 11, 2015

USE YOUR WORDS - September 2015

Today’s post is a writing challenge. This is how it works: participating bloggers picked 4 – 6 words or short phrases for someone else to craft into a post. All words must be used at least once and all the posts will be unique as each writer has received their own set of words. That’s the challenge, here’s a fun twist; no one who’s participating knows who got their words and in what direction the writer will take them. Until now.

At the end of this post you’ll find links to the other blogs featuring this challenge. Check them all out, see what words they got and how they used them.

I’m using: 
robust ~ strength ~ core ~ phoenix ~ blue ~ mother

They were submitted by: Sparkly Poetic Weirdo

Links to the other “Use Your Words” posts:

 Baking In A Tornado

 Spatulas on Parade

 The Momisodes

 The Bergham’s Life Chronicles

 Stacy Sews and Schools

 Sparkly Poetic Weirdo

 Southern Belle Charm

 The Diary of an Alzheimer’s Caregiver

 Dinosaur Superhero Mommy

 The Angrivated Mom

 Confessions of a part time working mom

 Someone Else’s Genius


 Evil Joy Speaks

 Never Ever Give Up Hope

 Eileen’s Perpetually Busy

 Searching for Sanity 

 She had a large, robust family and she took great pride in it. Her children were her everything. Her reason to keep going in a difficult life. Being a mother was the most important thing in the world to her, her reason for being. Her reason for breathing. 
 But things happen, like they always do. 
 Her family was torn apart by a monster. 
 She had to go. She took most of the children with her but one chose to remain behind. 
 The pain in her heart from the one child deciding not to go with her nearly tore her heart in two.  Her blue eyes were constantly swimming in tears. 
 But she had to find the strength in her core to rise like a phoenix from the ashes of heartbreak, violence and betrayal. 
 She had to keep going on the hope that one day all of her children would one day be under her roof, safe, sound and happy as they had never before been. 

September 7, 2015

Blog with Friends - Back to School

It's Blog with Friends time again!! WOO HOO!! I am so happy to be back with a new tutorial for you!! It feels like it has been AGES since I had a new tutorial!! I think the last one was a Blog with Friends! 

Anyway, this time around I have an easy peasy nap mat cover for you. Super fast, super easy!!! 

My cousin's little boy is starting preschool and they requested that the parents have covers for the kids' nap mats. 


What I Used 

Less than 2 yards of fabric
Coordinating thread


With the fabric folded in half, like it comes off the bolt, I put the nap mat on it and cut the fabric.
You want to leave several inches at the top and bottom as well as the sides for seam allowance, room for it to be folded, and room for it to spread out when the child lies down on it. 
Make sense??


Sew the zipper in the top.
I guess I'm a little rusty at this tutorial thing because this is the only picture I took of the zipper process.

You are going to fold the fabric over at the top by 1/4" and press.

Fold over 1/2" and press.

Place the zipper on the wrong side of the fabric and pin in place.

Sew the zipper.

I did a double row of stitches for reinforcement.


With wrong sides together and your zipper open, sew the 2 open sides together. 

Turn right side out!

Slide your mat inside.

Zip it up!

You're done!!!!!

So, what do you think?? Fast and easy????

Don't forget to click the links to all the other posts!!! You know they're going to be AWESOME!!!!!

Karen at Baking in a Tornado has this DELICIOUS recipe for Kit Kat Brownie Bars. OMG!! I NEEEEED THESE!!!!

Lydia from Cluttered Genius has the perfect list for you - Favorite Sites for Teaching Online. As a homeschooler this is AWESOME!!!!

Melissa from Home on Deranged has a great post about Apps to Use and Apps to Lose for the School Year

The Lieber Family has a great tutorial for making a Personalized Pencil Pouch AND a More Organized School Year. AWESOME!!!!

Eileen from Eileen's Perpetually Busy has a wonderful tutorial for making a special display for Take a Trip Back in Time

Robin from Someone Else's Genius has an awesome tutorial for this GORGEOUS Back to School Wreath! Love it!

Joy at Evil Joy Speaks has a tutorial for a Back to School Homework Table! SO cool!!!

Make sure you click on all the SUPER AWESOME links!!!!

September 4, 2015

Secret Subject Swap - September 2015

Welcome to a Secret Subject Swap. This week 16 brave bloggers picked a secret subject for someone else and were assigned a secret subject to interpret in their own style. Today we are all simultaneously divulging our topics and submitting our posts.

Here are links to all the sites now featuring Secret Subject Swap posts. Sit back, grab a cup, and check them all out. See you there:

 Baking In A Tornado

 The Momisodes

 The Bergham’s Life Chronicles

 Stacy Sews and Schools

 Dinosaur Superhero Mommy

 Spatulas on Parade

Sparkly Poetic Weirdo 

 Southern Belle Charm

 The Angrivated Mom

 Confessions of a part time working mom

 The Lieber Family Blog

 Cluttered Genius

 The Diary of an Alzheimer’s Caregiver

 Someone Else’s Genius

 House of J Chronicles


My subject is:

“Do you believe that people can be forced to do what's good for them?

It was submitted by: Confessions of a part time working mom .

The short and sweet answer is no, you cannot force someone to do what's good for them. 

The thing is, that is very subjective. Good for them by whose standards? Mine, yours, theirs? What I think is good for someone maybe the complete opposite of what they think is good for them. 
We all have different opinions about everything under the sun.

Now, I obviously don't mean things like drug abuse or drunk driving. Although, in those cases you still can't force someone to not to them. I wish we could. The world would be better off if we could. 

That being said, the world would NOT be better off if some of us were able to force our will, and only our will, upon others. It really isn't up to us to decide what may or may not be good for someone else. We haven't walked in their shoes. We don't know what's driving their decisions. We don't know their options. 

Oh, people try every single day to make people do what THEY think is good for them. But if you're like me, that gets your back up. When someone tries to force me to do what THEY think is good for me, without any thought to who I actually am, and what I actually stand for, or where I have actually been in my life, they are more likely to meet with resistance or out right rebellion. 

I'm not necessarily proud of that. I am usually such a people pleaser but sometimes even I can be contrary. LOL 

Most times people think you are asking for advice when what you are really asking for is an ear to listen to you, a heart to feel for you, and arms to hug you. 

August 28, 2015

Funny Friday - August 2015

 Funny Friday, August 2015

Today’s post is this month’s Funny Friday, a regular feature published on the last Friday of every month. Funny Friday is a collaborative project. Each month one of the participants submits a picture, then we all write 5 captions or thoughts inspired by that month’s picture. Links to the other bloggers’ posts are below, click on them and see what they’ve come up with. I hope we bring a smile to your face as you start your weekend.

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Here’s today’s picture. It was submitted by The Bergham’s Life Chronicles     

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1. Yes. Yes, there is definitely something I don't like hiding in there.

2. Hmmm, maybe if I shove my boogers in here no one will know that I've been picking my nose.

3. Do they not see my cape?? Do they not realize that I am Super Baby??

4. Pigs in a blanket? I don't see any pigs!!!

5. Maybe if I close my eyes that won't see that I don't want to eat anymore!

Click on the links below and let some other bloggers make you smile:

Spatulas on Parade

Stacy Sews and Schools

The Bergham’s Life Chronicles

Follow me home

Measurements of Merriment

Southern Belle Charm

Dinosaur Superhero Mommy

Baking In A Tornado

Someone Else’s Genius

Confessions of a part-time working mom

The Momisodes 


August 14, 2015

USE YOUR WORDS - August 2015


Today’s post is a writing challenge. This is how it works: participating bloggers picked 4 – 6 words or short phrases for someone else to craft into a post. All words must be used at least once and all the posts will be unique as each writer has received their own set of words. That’s the challenge, here’s a fun twist; no one who’s participating knows who got their words and in what direction the writer will take them. Until now.

At the end of this post you’ll find links to the other blogs featuring this challenge. Check them all out, see what words they got and how they used them. 

I’m using: 
Surreal ~ shoddy ~ succumb ~ satiate ~ sorrowful

They were submitted by: Angrivated Mom

So I have to admit a little something here before I get started. I totally thought I had another week. YILES!!!! Not sure how I got all mixed up and confused. Sooo... this may not go as well as it could/should have. 

This is the story of the 5 Ss at work. 

Surreal (S number 1) was always in the clouds. He was a dreamer. The other Ss had a hard time getting him to deal with reality. It was a very difficult thing to put up with. Some of his ideas were definitely out there. 

Shoddy (S number 2) was a lazy bum. He was always getting in trouble at work for not giving his best. The other Ss were getting sick and tired of him! Why won't someone fire him????

Succumb (S number 3) was always sick!! She seemed to catch every single bug that went around. The other Ss were forever buying her hand sanitizer and orange juice. She swore she took her vitamins but the other weren't too sure about that. 

Satiate (S number 4) was always happy. She never seemed to have a single problem! She always working toward helping the other Ss in whatever way she could. 

Sorrowful (S number 5) was the complete opposite of Satiate. She was always depressed. Satiate tried being her friend but Sorrowful couldn't seem to see past her tears and heartbreak.

Links to the other “Use Your Words” posts:

 Baking In A Tornado

 Spatulas on Parade

 The Momisodes

 The Bergham’s Life Chronicles

 Stacy Sews and Schools

 Southern Belle Charm

 Dinosaur Superhero Mommy

 Sparkly Poetic Weirdo

 Someone Else’s Genius

 Never Ever Give Up Hope

 Confessions of a part-time working mom

The Diary of an Alzheimer’s Caregiver

 Searching for Sanity


 Juicebox Confession

Cluttered Genius

 The Angrivated Mom