I was on Facebook the other day and I saw a blogger post a question from a reader. The lady had 3 girls and the middle girl has severe middle child syndrome. The mother wanted to know how she could try to get her child beyond that.
OK. Good question. I know there are a lot of kids out there that might have that same issue and I bet a lot of other moms could help. THANKFULLY I have never had to deal with that, I'll explain a little more about that latter. I want to stay on topic here. ;)
ANYWAY, there was A LOT of advice but I also kept seeing a recurring theme among mothers to boys...... Here is a little taste.
"I tell my middle son to suck it up and quit being a baby."
"I always say to my boy to quit crying, I thought I only had 2 girls."
"I tell my son to quit being a sissy."
REALLY?????? Are you SERIOUS????? What year is it again? Did these mothers just pass through a time warp????
It hurts my heart so much to read that these women actually say these things to their sweet little boys. Telling them that boys aren't supposed to show their emotions. That they need to, essentially, shut up and deal.... These are CHILDREN!!!! They are precious! Their feelings COUNT! They are not small adults! They are watching, listening and learning by everything you say AND do! You are molding them into the adults they will be! Do we really need more grown males that can't/won't express emotions except for happiness and anger???
I really wanted to let those women have it. I didn't. I didn't say anything. Maybe I should have. I don't know..... I didn't want to be "that person" that jumps into a thread simply to tell someone off. And I think even if I had done it in a calm manner, it would have escalated into much more....
I just can't believe that this is still how some people think! Why should a child's gender matter when it comes to emotions? Why shouldn't little boys cry??? I do not understand this way of thinking and I have 3 boys!!!
Are they saying that men that cry are not really men?
I bet anything that most of them wish their husbands showed more emotions......
My heart hurts so much for these boys. I can only pray that their mothers wise up and stop treating them as if their feelings and emotions don't count. How very, very sad. Keep children like this in your prayers, please.
Ecclesiastes 3: 1-8
1There is a time for everything,
and a season for every activity under heaven:
2a time to be born and a time to die,
a time to plant and a time to uproot,
3a time to kill and a time to heal,
a time to tear down and a time to build,
4a time to weep and a time to laugh,
a time to mourn and a time to dance,
5a time to scatter stones and a time to gather them,
a time to embrace and a time to refrain,
6a time to search and a time to give up,
a time to keep and a time to throw away,
7a time to tear and a time to mend,
a time to be silent and a time to speak,
8a time to love and a time to hate,
a time for war and a time for peace.